WHAT IS SELF LOVE?
There are lots of definition to Self Love and everyone have their own meaning as to what love is. Wikipedia define Self-love defined as “love of self” or “regard for one’s own happiness or advantage” has both been conceptualized as a basic human necessity and as a moral flaw, akin to vanity and selfishness, synonymous with amour propre, conceit, conceitedness, egotism, et al. Let us also take a look at what love is.
WHAT IS “LOVE” ?
Love is Love; it’s a quality that can’t be truly defined because it’s deep and immeasurable. Love has an environment and the location is right inside of you. You don’t have to enslave yourself or someone else to it. The same measure you love someone else, the things around you, with that same measure you can love yourself. All you need is a little time and constant practice. You’d realize that love is not something you do, it’s who you are, it basically your nature. I know that religion and tradition in most cases have taught most people how to love others first before they love themselves and these have eaten deep into their thought pattern. Well, for you to give love freely you have to first experience what it is. You can’t give what you don’t have.
UNDERSTANDING SELF LOVE
Understanding self love is the key to finding true happiness and that light keeps shining into the world for everyone to see. Love travels in the blink of an eye. And love is one thing that binds everyone together. For instance, why will I give a stranger a ride, think about it? Or why will I want the world to become a better place if not for the love in my heart? So you see, love is way deeper than we see it. For you to be able to activate that love you need to search inside and find you first.
Lots of people have been abused as children so growing up they had lost all form of self-esteem, self-independence, and thereby causing inferiority complex. They believe that there’s no such thing as love. Some didn’t even have the opportunity to feel loved by parents so they feel less of it and they think there is no such thing as love.
Sweetheart, there is good news, there is love and you are” LOVE” you might not look like it but you still are. Just
ACTIVATE SELF LOVE
Look deep inside yourself and start to admire the things that no one else sees or knows about you, then start to develop those things and when it’s ripped enough, deploy it. You will see yourself glowing in joy and achievement.
WAYS TO LOVING YOURSELF AND FEELING GREAT ABOUT YOURSELF
Appreciate and be kind to yourself:
You may have been hurt emotional, disappointed, backstabbed, and you keep failing in things you think you are good at. But don’t let these things be a yardstick for depriving yourself of true love. Learn to accept your mistakes and make a conscious effort to change. Don’t keep blaming yourself for a mistake you made, let go and start again, no matter how many times you fail, don’t stop, until you get it right. Tell yourself that you can do it, and when you get it right; appreciate yourself for trying so hard. If convenient get yourself a reward for being your best.
Keep seeing yourself as a soulful, loving and most admirable human being.
Feel the love within you and be that love:
Learn how to strike out the negative things you feel about yourself and replace it with something positive. Choose to be intentional about following the positive things listed with time, you will outdo the negative feelings about yourself and you will start to see the positive things manifest. Spend more time on admiring yourself, take a selfie if you have to, wear makeup or just look at the mirror and stare at yourself for long hours admiring everything about your physical look. Read books that will motivate you and inspire you to love yourself more, meditate, Pray and listen to edifying podcast or messages.
Give yourself a break:
The problem is you always want to be on top of your game, you don’t want to be caught losing one game. Yeah! I understand that part, I can relate. Lots of us grew up with so much expectation of coming first or staying on top, so if you do anything less, you are not applauded for that reason, you always want to come first. The competition to get better becomes pretty high that we start to break ourselves just to stay abreast. Life is way beyond that. Allow me to tell you this; you don’t have to win every time, allow yourself loose if you have to, so you can play a better game another time. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You are doing just fine.
Learn how to treat yourself with so much love and emotion. Take yourself out, and if you cant afford it, Treat yourself to a good movie at home with your pack of popcorn and create a cinema effect in your space, Meet new friends, have a new hairstyle to make you look different, get new clothes if you can afford it and just do whatever makes you happy. Give yourself a good treat; you really don’t need anyone to do that for you sometimes. Do it, and enjoy the feeling of buying what you love with your money. The process of loving yourself starts with understanding your true nature.
Be grateful for your life and opportunity to love and be loved. Gratitude is a door opener to greater things. Be thankful for every little thing that makes you the person you are today.
Give yourself in service to others:
When you think about kindness towards others and being loved by others, you open the door to divine love. Giving to others is a gift of love you can often give yourself. When you’re being kind and compassionate and giving to others you will feel joy in your heart, by so doing you will reach the highest level of self-love in this state of serving others. This will make you feel more love and fulfilment in life.
“You are the best gift, you can ever have. Love yourself and appreciate every bit of it”